D-I-V-O-R-C-E (What the Bible really says about it!!!)

First, let me say that it saddens and angers me to hear that folks have been or are being mistreated by church folks (people that are supposed to be Saints of God) because they are divorced!!!   

We, as the body of Christ, are supposed to build up, love and help those that are hurting, NOT tear them down and spit on them!!! 

And for those of you, that are mistreating others, You will pay!  You will reap what you sow!! 

 

D-I-V-O-R-C-E 

Nowadays, this is a common every day word to most people, but in some churches, they treat divorced people like common criminals!!!  

 

AND if you are in a church that does this, then you better start praying for the ones who are doing it, because being divorced does NOT make a person any less a child of God!!!    

 

Thankfully, I grew up in a Baptist Church and I thank the Lord that they did NOT preach that divorce was the unpardonable sin!!!  Matt. 12:31-32

And just in case, that you have been told that DIVORCE is a sin, I am here to tell you that you have been told wrong!!!!  That is a lie from the pits of HELL!!!  

I will tell you right now, that GOD would rather see one of HIS BELOVED CHILDREN get a divorce than be ABUSED by another man or woman!!  

So, what does the BIBLE say about divorce????  

Let’s go to 1 Corinthians 7:10-15 to find out!!!  

Now, first let me tell you that I am going to use the King James, so that I can show you what the Lord says in HIS WORD.  I want you to see what He revealed to me several years ago when my own husband chose to leave me and announced that he was getting a divorce!!

I want you to know that in looking ALL this up, I really enjoyed the way in which The Message Bible explains what Paul is saying and therefore, I have linked it and the KJV to the title up above.    

Now as we begin reading, I want you to pay close attention to the words, “brother” and “sister” in these verses, because in these verses the Bible is talking about the Saints of GOD (Christians)!!!   

1 Corinthians 7:10-11 (KJV)  

 ¹⁰And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: 

 ¹¹But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

So, let me be blunt and plain about this!  Paul is saying here, “No, as a Christian, you are NOT just supposed to get up and get a divorce just because life is tough!!!  Stay married!  Go home and work it out!” 

And I am saying that I agree!!!  If you will ask God to help you, HE WILL!! 

GOD CAN AND WILL make your marriage better than you ever thought possible!!!

Now, we are going to talk about those folks who are SAVED and married to someone, who while they may claim to be a child of God, doesn’t act like one or who doesn’t claim to be saved at ALL!!!  God calls these folks UNBELIEVERS!

1 Cor. 7:12-13, 15 (KJV)

¹²But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. 

 ¹³And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. 

 ¹⁵But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.

First, I am going to deal with verse 15.  Paul being led by the Spirit of God, says here:  But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.

Paul is saying here that if your spouse (husband or wife) chooses to leave you, then let them go.  Don’t go trying to get them back or persuade them to come back.  Leave them be!!! 

I am NOT saying that it is easy to let them go!!!  But you cannot make folks come back or stay when they have chosen to leave you!  And you cannot make them love you. 


You can get a divorce or you can let them get the divorce, because you are no longer tied to that person!!!  

But if you get a divorce, do it peacefully!!!  Don’t be fighting and fussing with them.

I know that if you love that person, it is hard to let them go!!!  But ALL you can do is be nice to them and treat them with kindness!  And let them go!

I can still remember how I prayed and prayed for my husband to return to me.  I stood in Faith for him. 

You can do ALL that.  It is okay for you to pray for them, but it is best for YOU to seek God for HIS Perfect Will!!!  Ask God to heal your broken heart!!!   

And for those of you who are already so over that person...   


When your spouse chooses to get a divorce, you (as a saved individual) are not doing anything wrong by NOT trying to bend over backwards to keep them. 

God is saying in verse 15 to let them go, “SO, LET THEM GO!!!”

Now folks, we are going to get down to the nitty gritty!!!  We are going to talk about the phrase, “…be pleased to dwell with…”  In plain English, if a person is pleased to dwell with you, that means they are pleased to live in the same house with you as your spouse.  They love you and they treat you with respect!!!

IF THEY TREAT YOU ANY OTHER WAY, THEN THEY ARE NOT PLEASED TO DWELL WITH YOU!!! 

 

1 Corinthians 7:12-14 (KJV)

 

¹²But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. 

 ¹³And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.

Now folks, we ALL have common sense, so let’s use it!!!  I am going to be blunt! 

If a man or a woman is pleased to dwell with you, they will NOT CUSS YOU CONSTANTLY!!! 


They will NOT TALK TO YOU DISRESPECTFULLY!!!

They will NOT BEAT YOU!!!! 

They will NOT ABUSE YOU SEXUALLY OR PHYSICALLY OR MENTALLY!!!  


They will NOT ABUSE YOU IN ANY FORM OR FASHION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

They will NOT TERRORIZE YOU OR THREATEN YOU OR YOUR CHILDREN!!!!!!!!!!!!!

They also WILL NOT CHEAT ON YOU OR ASK YOU TO HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE ELSE!!! 

And they WILL NOT HAVE SEX WITH YOUR KIDS!!!

 

DID I LEAVE ANYTHING OUT???

If you are married (or you were married) to someone who has done or is doing these things, then you need to get out!!!  I am NOT saying to get a divorce, but GOD SAYS THAT YOU CAN!!!  And HE won’t be mad at you!!!

GOD would NOT have put these verses in HIS WORD, (verses 13 & 14) if HE had NOT intended for us to read them!!! 

No where in God’s WORD does The Lord say, Husband beat your wife or Wife beat your husband!!! 

Here is how THE WORD says that we are to treat our husband or our wife.   

Eph 5:21 Amplified Bible (AMP)

²¹Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One).

 

 

Then it continues on in verses 21-33.  You can read ALL theses verses by clicking on this link!!!  Ephesians 5:21-33

 

 

Okay men, here is how THE WORD says you are to love your wife: 

 

Eph. 5:25-33

 

 ²⁵Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;   

 

²⁸So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 

 ²⁹For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

  ³³Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself… 

Now for the wives, here is how THE WORD says you are supposed to show your husband that you love him.    

Eph. 5:22-24, 33

 ²²Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 

 ²³For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 

 ²⁴Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 

 ³³ …and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

 

 

And for ALL of you, I wanted to show you verse 33 in the Amplified: 

³³However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly].

So, HUSBANDS, if you do as verses 28-29 say, AND CHERISH YOUR WIFE AND NOURISH HER AS YOU WOULD YOUR OWN BODY, then you will have an exceedingly happy wife who prefers you above ALL others and esteems you highly!!!  She will do everything that she can to make you happy!!!   

And WIVES, if you will do as verse 33 says, and respect and honor and esteem your husband, letting him know that you prefer him above ALL others.  If you praise him, and admire him exceedingly, then he will make sure that you have the world and he will make sure that you are happy!!!

FOLKS, LAST, BUT CERTAINLY NOT LEAST!!!  A true marriage, one built on God, is a marriage of doing for each other and loving each other and respecting each other!!!  It may NOT be easy, but it is WELL WORTH IT!!!

 

 

Ephesians 5:31

  ³¹For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.